In thinking about Only Children, what is the first attribute that comes to mind? 
A child that is spoiled by material items may be an answer to that question. Parents that lack the will power to say “no” would be another. Do you ever think of an only child being spoiled in positive ways?
A definition of “spoil” is to weaken the character of a child by complying unrestrainedly with its desires. What every child desires most is love and stability. In today’s world, the thought of abuse, divorce and the unrelenting fad of putting our children last and us first is highly prevalent. Children often take the brunt of their parent’s selfish ways and lack the love and support they crave. A Child deserves it’s Parent’s best.
People often assume that I am spoiling my only child with material items. It is not easy to change their minds as the stereotype has been long ingrained. Quite frankly, I tell them I cannot afford to give him everything he wants, but I make up for it by quality time. At that point, I have been told that I am giving him too much and he will grow to resent me.
How can a parent give too much love? How can a parent give too much of their time? How does this harm the child?
I spoil Butchoy by giving him as much attention or as little as his needs change. There are no other children to take up my time. Each activity can be fully completed with all my focus, and his, on the task at hand. He is learning to be independent when needed and also working together as a team.
I spoil Butchoy by not having to limit what I do with him or for him. I spoil Butchoy by having a calm household at times and an active household at other times. I spoil Butchoy by having a less stressful household. I spoil Butchoy by following through on discipline and/or consequences consistently because I think for his future and not what is easiest for me in the present. I spoil Butchoy by being the best mom I can be for him.
I am proud to be able to spoil my child in every good way. Sometimes Grandparents don’t get all of the fun!
JOANNE
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